Licensed Psychotherapist

Marriage Difficulties? Relationship troubles?

Do you and your partner have the same fights over and over again without resolution?
Has the love you once felt for your partner been replaced
with tension and frustration?
Do you fight over the kids, household chores, sex, and money?

Couples, gay or straight, want the same thing. We want our romantic relationship to be a refuge, a safe and renewing place to be. We want to trust that our partner is our chief supporter. Primary relationships are the arenas where we work out our deepest stuff and it's our deepest stuff that is most affected by how we were raised and our history in relationships. We are most vulnerable in our relationships so if problems persist our whole lives can feel miserable. Sadly the original feelings that drew us to our partners are lost or covered over with unhappiness--and painful patterns may become commonplace. This is a very painful and difficult place to be. You may feel hopeless. 

Let me help you.

Counseling can help with these common problems:

  • Communication Difficulties: You feel like your partner simply doesn't hear you or understand you. It hurts

  • Arguing-- over the same things day in and day out. You think that one day your mate will finally agree with you--but instead, the arguing escalates or one of you withdraws into silence.

  • Infidelity or affair: You aren't sure what to do now. Can you restore trust and stay together?

  • Anxiety. When you aren't sure where you stand in your relationship, it can cause stress, heartbreak and jealousy.

  • Intimacy issues: Your sex life isn't what you want it to be --whether because of children, aging or emotional distance. You miss the closeness. 

  • Parenting issues: You both want the best for your children, but disagree on what is best. 

Through marriage counseling, we can work together to help you improve communication (and that covers a lot of ground), increase trust, reduce arguing and find some joy in your relationship again.

Does Marriage Counseling work?

Yes. Marriage counseling is talking things out with an unbiased professional who has one goal: to help your relationship improve. As a couples counselor I have specific training in methods and interventions that have been scientifically proven to help couples change their relationships.  The marital research available helps therapists identify the emotional needs of each person within the relationship and supports each person in understanding and responding to the other.  I can help you learn the skills that can help you work through struggles that are a part of any relationship--and to help you create a more loving and respectful friendship and love-ship.

When is the right time to seek marriage counseling?

Researcher, Dr. John Gottman found that the average couple waits 6 years before seeking help for marriage problems. Combine this with the fact that 50% of all marriages don't last eight years, one can only wonder how getting help sooner, rather than later, could help these couples and families.

Bottom line: if your relationship is struggling and not getting any better, NOW is the time to seek counseling.

Here are your next steps:

Call or email today.

Remember you don't need to wait to convince your partner to join you.



​If not now, when?