- I've worked with clients who have found retirement to be more of a challenge than they expected. Instead of enjoying the new found freedom of not going to work everyday, they have found their emotional life suddenly running their lives. As one client said, "my professional self was very competent, but my personal self is really under-developed.I need some help getting to know that part of me because right now she feels like a burden."
- When internet dating first began 15 plus years ago, I developed a program called "Smart Dating"--focusing on those over 35-- divorced, never married who wanted help navigating internet dating but were also willing to examine the patterns and emotional hurdles that were obstacles to finding a partner. I continue to love helping folks find a partner for life and, ironically, I believe people tend to get more help buying a car than they do choosing a loving mate.
- People have been talking about forgiveness for thousands of years, plenty of time for all kinds of confusion and contradiction. Does forgiveness have a place in psychotherapy? Recently I have been offering clients who are interested in exploring forgiveness in their own lives, the step by step process developed by psychologist and researcher, Robert Enright. After many years of refinement, Dr. Enright has a scientifically validated process that shows a statistically significant reduction in depression, anxiety, excessive anger--even drug use and violence in those who undertake a forgiveness process---even if the forgiveness is incomplete. As Enright says, forgiveness is a way to be free of the pains and hurts from our past--not because what was done to us is forgotten or because we move on --but because we carefully choose to shift our inner landscape and free ourselves from the past's imprisonment. Our offenders do not deserve forgiveness, Enright proposes, but we choose, if we want to, to offer them forgiveness as our gift and as a way to free ourselves. The offender need never apologize and need never know. If you'd like to explore how forgiveness can benefit you, I'd be happy to talk with you about this. You can also read about Enright's work at https://internationalforgiveness.com